Avoid her past
Generally speaking, one should never ask about past lovers on a first date. In fact, this should be avoided until she initiates the topic (if she ever does). She might have been hurt or may still be in love with her ex. You also prefer to start with a clean slate, so becoming chummy with her and comforting her about past mistakes may not be the greatest strategy on the first date. The goal is to take off her lipstick by the end of the evening, not help her wipe the tears as they smudge her mascara.
Got any brothers or sisters?
Usually, a safe topic of conversation is asking about siblings (don't ask her if she's got cute sisters). Again, asking about her parents could backfire if they experienced a divorce or separation, especially at a young age. But sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings and score points for you since you're showing a caring side and an interest in her family life.
Traveled anywhere special?
A tricky way to spark a girl's interest is by asking about her past travel destinations and where she intends on visiting in the future. The upside is that if she mentions a spot she always wanted to visit, lo and behold, here comes the knight in shining armor (that's you, boy) and offers to make her dreams come true one day by taking her there. This also provides both people with some insight about one's cultural background and their openness to new adventures.
Drinks anyone?
A topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you prefers. Again, not only can you gauge whether or not you share culinary preferences, but the potential topics are endless and provide you with a safe topic of conversation unless, of course, you are dating someone with an addiction to food or alcohol.
Any career plans?
Asking a girl about her past education and whether she intends on returning to school is admittedly a double-edged sword. She might love to go on and on about her numerous academic achievements, but she might break down and admit that her current job has absolutely nothing to do with what she studied. In either case, you are provided with a golden opportunity to reassure and encourage her with an abundance of compliments.
How's your job?
If you are years removed from your college years, then talking about work and career goals just might be a safer topic. Admittedly, do not let her go into the mundane details about how fed up she is with her life, which would explain why she's on her seventh margarita. But generally speaking, people like to brag about work, no matter how routine it is. It also gives you an idea regarding whether or not you are dating a future CEO or a waitress for life (not that there is anything wrong with that, of course).
Got any friends?
Ask her about her friends. Even if you do not know them, she will love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her and where she met them (and all of the things they did together). Don't doze off though, my good man, this is when you get precious details about her. If you ever make it further than the first date, her friends are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.
Free time frolicking
Does she roller blade, collect stamps or dance? How about sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you. Moreover, you gain some insight to follow-up questions.
Weekend's peakin'
Not only do you get a clearer picture of what life with her will be like after the honeymoon, but you are also sending mixed messages, which is not entirely bad at first. Yes, mind games are childish, but keeping your cards at your chest gives you leverage. She will ask herself: "Does he want to see me on weekends?"
Be bold and look ahead
Now, assuming she is having a good time and she is looking at you with that sparkle in her eye... In other words, if her body language is positive, you can look ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future. Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what other great adventures you have in store for her.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Thursday, August 13, 2009
First Time Dating Tips
Meeting your date first time gives a range of emotional feeling in your mind which will be so thrilling and also terrifying. Dating with a singles for the first time will make a lot of chemistry changes in our body.
Be on time
Timeliness is the first tip in making your dating experience go smoothly. Timeliness is expected by other singles with whom you date that day. Being late or too early will create a bad impression on you in their mind. Not always we can be on time but sometimes it goes out of our control. How to avoid such situation with your first date. Communicate with them. Call them before the expected arrival time and tell them about your delay in meeting them. This gives good impression on you that you are serious in the date.
Personal Checks
Before going to meet your date / friend check yourself first. Below is the list that you need to check on you before meeting your date
•Fingernails are clean or not
•Hair style and neat
•check your cloths are properly ironed
•shoes polished
•Any odors are under control.
Your physical impression is more essential than your mental impression in your first date.
Appearance
Your date may not look at your hair style or clothing style but they will see your appearance. If your look is not pleasing, your first may be your last date with him. So check your appearance. Have a simple makeup which must not be done overly. Mild perfume will help you in attracting his attention on you. Be simple on your first date.
Don't go to crowded places
Dating is about to get to know each other better and to talk and understand about your date. First time dating is meant for knowing each others. When you go to movies or theatres, he may got attracted on others than you which may spoil your dating experience. In a crowded place there is a chance that you can't get to know each other well.
No over communication on first date
To know more about your date, you need to ask some questions but be sure that you are asking the questions which you want to ask. Overlay asked questions and answers will make other person to loose interest in having further dates with you. So keep it simple and smooth. Moreover dating is more than an interview. Don't talk about yourself always, give your date a chance also.
Keep surprises about you
Don't allow your date to get to know all about you in first time itself. This makes your date to loose interest. Keep secrets about you but give a hint about it. Create interest so that you get their attention not only in the first date but for further dates too. Guys tend to check more about girls life and girls love to know about secrets and try to uncover them.
Keep something common with your date
Before going to first time dating, you should know each other through online dating/ friendship sites. With the help of those you may know a little about your date. So have something in common which creates interest for talking. Best method to have interesting topics will be from magazines, newspapers. Read them to get some common topics which creates way to know more about your date. Always try to find common things that both can share.
Never argue with your date
Always keep an open mind especially with your date. If you always argue with everything in first dating it creates bad impression and interest. Saying so is not saying yes to everything that your date says but gives places where you differ, alternate ideas. If you don't know something ask them.
Never get excited with first date
One important tip for the first time dating friends is never get nervous/excited. You may get excited but don't show them to your date. Stay calm, confident looks is very appealing than a nervous, excited look.
Have lot's of fun with your date
Have fun with your date. For that only we are dating with others.
Above are some tips which are said, there is a lot of dating tips which helps you in your dating. Dating tips may help for some and not for some. Tips which are said are of general members in mind. Successful dating experience depends on the situation not with any other things. So use these free dating tips with care.
Be on time
Timeliness is the first tip in making your dating experience go smoothly. Timeliness is expected by other singles with whom you date that day. Being late or too early will create a bad impression on you in their mind. Not always we can be on time but sometimes it goes out of our control. How to avoid such situation with your first date. Communicate with them. Call them before the expected arrival time and tell them about your delay in meeting them. This gives good impression on you that you are serious in the date.
Personal Checks
Before going to meet your date / friend check yourself first. Below is the list that you need to check on you before meeting your date
•Fingernails are clean or not
•Hair style and neat
•check your cloths are properly ironed
•shoes polished
•Any odors are under control.
Your physical impression is more essential than your mental impression in your first date.
Appearance
Your date may not look at your hair style or clothing style but they will see your appearance. If your look is not pleasing, your first may be your last date with him. So check your appearance. Have a simple makeup which must not be done overly. Mild perfume will help you in attracting his attention on you. Be simple on your first date.
Don't go to crowded places
Dating is about to get to know each other better and to talk and understand about your date. First time dating is meant for knowing each others. When you go to movies or theatres, he may got attracted on others than you which may spoil your dating experience. In a crowded place there is a chance that you can't get to know each other well.
No over communication on first date
To know more about your date, you need to ask some questions but be sure that you are asking the questions which you want to ask. Overlay asked questions and answers will make other person to loose interest in having further dates with you. So keep it simple and smooth. Moreover dating is more than an interview. Don't talk about yourself always, give your date a chance also.
Keep surprises about you
Don't allow your date to get to know all about you in first time itself. This makes your date to loose interest. Keep secrets about you but give a hint about it. Create interest so that you get their attention not only in the first date but for further dates too. Guys tend to check more about girls life and girls love to know about secrets and try to uncover them.
Keep something common with your date
Before going to first time dating, you should know each other through online dating/ friendship sites. With the help of those you may know a little about your date. So have something in common which creates interest for talking. Best method to have interesting topics will be from magazines, newspapers. Read them to get some common topics which creates way to know more about your date. Always try to find common things that both can share.
Never argue with your date
Always keep an open mind especially with your date. If you always argue with everything in first dating it creates bad impression and interest. Saying so is not saying yes to everything that your date says but gives places where you differ, alternate ideas. If you don't know something ask them.
Never get excited with first date
One important tip for the first time dating friends is never get nervous/excited. You may get excited but don't show them to your date. Stay calm, confident looks is very appealing than a nervous, excited look.
Have lot's of fun with your date
Have fun with your date. For that only we are dating with others.
Above are some tips which are said, there is a lot of dating tips which helps you in your dating. Dating tips may help for some and not for some. Tips which are said are of general members in mind. Successful dating experience depends on the situation not with any other things. So use these free dating tips with care.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Dress to Impress on Your First Date
Many of you ladies might think you won’t need help primping for a first date, as you’re already impeccably dressed and would never think of committing any fashion crimes. But when it comes to impressing someone you’re sweet on, even the most stylish among us can lose our way. Herewith, your definitive guide to dating-wear do’s and don’ts.
Make an effort.
It goes without saying: you want to let your date know that you gave a damn to look good for him, and vice versa. If you’re a girly-girl, this is a no-brainer: you always aim to look put-together and “done”. But even us girly-girls can sometimes miss those all-important details.
So fresh, so clean.
Now, I hate ironing as much as you, but if you insist on wearing those oh-so-butt-flattering yet wrinkle-friendly black pants, be sure to iron them before heading out. And if you’re going to pull out your trusty LBD, make sure you put on your deodorant after slipping it on. Some of these so-called “invisible” brands simply aren’t and you don’t want to end up with those dreaded white slash marks near your waist. Be neat. Your date will surely appreciate your chic, tidy, and crease-free look.
Less is more.
A general rule when it comes to first-date dressing? Don’t show too much skin. You want to look sophisticated, not like a dime-store hooker. A little cleavage is good, however. Keep the girls strapped into a well-fitting bra and you’ll show some sex appeal without giving off the achingly desperate cougar vibe.
This rule also applies to makeup, so be subtle. Maybe a little extra shimmer shadow in the corner of your eye, or a couple of extra coats of mascara, but don’t go trying out that ubiquitous smokey-eye raccoon-look if it’s not something you’d wear day to day. Honesty is key here. You want to convey what you actually look like, not what you’d look like as a circus performer.
Clean hands, manicured nails.
Ever since I outgrew my decades-long nail-biting habit, I’ve noticed people’s hands and nails. And you know what they say about hands: well-kept hands say “stable, together”; chewed, dirty fingernails say “Nervous Nellie”. So keep up with regular manicures at home or treat yourself to a professional mani at a salon. You’ll feel more confident if you’re not embarrassed to show your claws.
Be comfortable.
You might think that date-night is a great excuse to run out to Aritzia and buy a sexy new top. But know this before you drop your already debt-ravaged Visa card: you might be more comfortable and at ease in clothes you already own. Wear what makes you feel great. First dates are stressful enough—the last thing you need is a boob to unexpectedly slip out of a top you’re not used to wearing.
Lastly, dress according to where you’re going.
If you’re going bowling on your first date, don’t show up in a sexy Mendocino dress; go casual with jeans and a nice top. The same is true if you’re going to a snazzy restaurant: dress appropriately.
Kristen Vinakmens
Make an effort.
It goes without saying: you want to let your date know that you gave a damn to look good for him, and vice versa. If you’re a girly-girl, this is a no-brainer: you always aim to look put-together and “done”. But even us girly-girls can sometimes miss those all-important details.
So fresh, so clean.
Now, I hate ironing as much as you, but if you insist on wearing those oh-so-butt-flattering yet wrinkle-friendly black pants, be sure to iron them before heading out. And if you’re going to pull out your trusty LBD, make sure you put on your deodorant after slipping it on. Some of these so-called “invisible” brands simply aren’t and you don’t want to end up with those dreaded white slash marks near your waist. Be neat. Your date will surely appreciate your chic, tidy, and crease-free look.
Less is more.
A general rule when it comes to first-date dressing? Don’t show too much skin. You want to look sophisticated, not like a dime-store hooker. A little cleavage is good, however. Keep the girls strapped into a well-fitting bra and you’ll show some sex appeal without giving off the achingly desperate cougar vibe.
This rule also applies to makeup, so be subtle. Maybe a little extra shimmer shadow in the corner of your eye, or a couple of extra coats of mascara, but don’t go trying out that ubiquitous smokey-eye raccoon-look if it’s not something you’d wear day to day. Honesty is key here. You want to convey what you actually look like, not what you’d look like as a circus performer.
Clean hands, manicured nails.
Ever since I outgrew my decades-long nail-biting habit, I’ve noticed people’s hands and nails. And you know what they say about hands: well-kept hands say “stable, together”; chewed, dirty fingernails say “Nervous Nellie”. So keep up with regular manicures at home or treat yourself to a professional mani at a salon. You’ll feel more confident if you’re not embarrassed to show your claws.
Be comfortable.
You might think that date-night is a great excuse to run out to Aritzia and buy a sexy new top. But know this before you drop your already debt-ravaged Visa card: you might be more comfortable and at ease in clothes you already own. Wear what makes you feel great. First dates are stressful enough—the last thing you need is a boob to unexpectedly slip out of a top you’re not used to wearing.
Lastly, dress according to where you’re going.
If you’re going bowling on your first date, don’t show up in a sexy Mendocino dress; go casual with jeans and a nice top. The same is true if you’re going to a snazzy restaurant: dress appropriately.
Kristen Vinakmens
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