Speed Dating Tips for Women

Don't Give Out Any Personal Details!

Speed dating is a great way to meet single guys. Its fun, it's fast and most importantly, it's safe. Help us keep it that way by not giving out any personal information during your speed dates. This includes last name, telephone number and email address. If you tick him off in your Speed Dating folder, and he also shows an interest in you, we'll make sure you both have everything you need in order to catch up again!

Give Clear Signals

Men are notoriously bad at interpreting signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. If you genuinely want to meet people then by all means flirt, just make sure you know how to separate the sexual flirting signals from the 'hi, I'm friendly' flirting signals.

Laugh and the World laughs with You

People love being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state of mind for making a good impression and go for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.

Like your mother said, if you haven't got anything nice to say - don't say anything at all... but don't get up and leave!

A Russian immigrant attended one speed dating events. Although he had a PhD he had found it difficult to find a job in his field and was driving a cab to make ends meet. When he arrived at one of the female guest's table she asked him what he did for a living (a no no in itself) and promptly got up and went to sit at the bar when she found out he drove a taxi. Not only is this kind of behavior deeply insulting to the man, it's just plain wrong.

It's almost inevitable that some of the people you meet will not be right for you, but they are human beings and deserve your respect and courtesy. They've paid to meet you too!

Be Interesting by Being Interested

Cut down the talk about yourself and ask him open-ended questions. Find out about him - after all people generally enjoy talking about themselves and feel flattered when someone shows an interest in them.

Jay Abrahams, the famous marketing expert, tells the story of a conversation he had with a stranger in a bar. He introduced himself and said that he was in Sydney to do a lecture tour. He then asked the stranger "What brings you to Sydney?"

An hour later the man got up to leave. "You know Mr. Abrahams" he said, "You are one of the most interesting people I have ever met". Jay recounts that during the entire hour the only words he spoke were those of his introduction and his first question!

People like people who are interested in them. You don't have to shut up entirely but when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 60% of the time listening to THEM!

Ask Him What He Enjoys Doing

Women and men often tend to fall back on the line 'What do you do'? To some men, this can smack of 'checking for wallet-padding'. Not everyone is doing work they love and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more activity orientated than women. Asking them what they enjoy doing in their life will allow you to find out more about what makes them tick.

Be Yourself

There's no point assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren't sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there, or you can ask us for some advices.

These tips are courtesy of Peta Heskell