First Date Conversation That Wins You Second Dates

Your ability to have fun on a first date and win yourself a second one is rarely about the topic of conversation. Read these tips on what is important when trying to create successful dating conversations...

Practice your first date conversation
Practice does indeed make perfect. If you don't feel your conversational skills are very good, particularly under the added pressure of a first date, then you're going to need to practice. Nobody becomes a great conversationalist by learning a few questions or topics (although that's a good start). Read up on some of the tips to having great conversations and practice them until you master them.

Don't make your first date a big deal
The more tense you get about a date, the more difficult you'll find it to create an interesting conversation. Here are some ways to release some of the tension before your dates:
• Remember - it's highly unlikely this person is your ideal partner, so in reality you haven't that much to lose if you don't get a second date
• Work on getting more first dates. I know that's not such great advice if you're just about to go on your one and only date in months! But, if you have an excess of first dates then you'll be a lot more relaxed about dating, because if this one doesn't work out, you have a number of others that probably will
• Fear is generally an indication of a lack of preparation. So work out 5 questions that will kick start a conversation.
• Remember that not all first dates are meant to lead to second dates. If you don't get a second date even though you wanted one it's because the two of you aren't compatible - not because you aren't a nice person.

The conversation topic should be... about them
People love to talk about themselves and things that interest them. One of your primary aims in a first date conversation (or any dating conversation) is to let them enjoy themselves. If they're having fun with you on a date, then the chances are they'll want to go out with you again. To do this you need to ask them questions they're able to answer by talking about things they enjoy. Good examples include:
• What do you love to do in your spare time?
• What are you most passionate about? Why?
• Who's your favorite film star? What is it about them that you love?
Ask enough questions on a date that make them feel good and they'll have had a fun date with you. And if they have a fun date with you, chances are, they'll want to date you again.