During the holidays, people are usually too busy to go on a date. People are usually spending that time shopping, wrapping presents, throwing parties, etc. How does one make time for a Christmas date? Are there any ways to turn the average Christmas chore into a fun Christmas date? This Christmas make a promise to your sweetie to have more Christmas dates and to spend more time having fun during the holidays rather than rushing to get everything done. I hope these Christmas date ideas help you to enjoy the holidays a bit more and help you to remember to take time to spend with your significant other.
Decorate the tree together. Decorating the tree may seem like a chore, but when you do it with someone you love, it can be turned into a wonderful Christmas date. This Christmas, ask your sweetie to help you decorate the tree. Have fun playing with the tinsel and garland, maybe wrapping each other in it and pulling your sweetie in for a kiss.
Watch a romantic Christmas movie. This is a nice, relaxing Christmas date. There are so many romantic Christmas movies to choose from. If you want a classic movie, choose It’s a Wonderful Life. If you’re looking for a comedy pick either Bridget Jones’s Diary or Love Actually, both are wonderful and quite funny.
Prepare a Christmas dinner for just the two of you. I don’t mean making a huge Christmas dinner for your Christmas date. What I do mean, is to prepare a small dinner with items such as a ham slice, mashed potatoes, Stove Top, corn, and some rolls. Pick up a prepared dessert from your local bakery to make this Christmas date even easier.
Prepare a sweets buffet
. This could be combined with the romantic movie Christmas date. A sweets buffet is a great Christmas date because everyone is happier when they’re around wonderful sweets. This will help take the edge off of the holidays and will allow you to relax and enjoy each other’s company. I suggest picking up some eggnog, butter cookies, chocolate covered cherries, and any other sweets you and your significant other enjoy.
Make cookies together. This is a wonderful Christmas date. I and my boyfriend actually did this on our first Christmas together. The cookies didn’t turn out so great, but it was so much fun. The cookies aren’t the important thing here; it’s spending time together that’s important. You could select a simple recipe for sugar cookies or you could even buy pre-made cookie dough and roll it out and cut it with cookie cutters. After the cookies are done and have cooled, make your Christmas date more interesting by decorating the cookies. It’s always fun to see how different people decorate their cookies.
Go Christmas shopping together. Turn this chore into a Christmas date. Shopping during the holidays can be a real headache, but if you go shopping with your sweetie, the experience becomes less dreadful. You can go through the store picking out gifts for your friends and family and you will probably get ideas of what to buy each other along the way.
Wrap Christmas gifts together. This is another fun Christmas date and best of all, it’s free. Grab all the presents you need to wrap and get your supplies. Put everything in the floor and wrap gifts as you talk and maybe watch holiday movies as well.
Listen to Christmas music together. This is a Christmas date that can be done almost anywhere. Also this is a Christmas date that can be combined with several other of the ideas listed above. Listen to all the classics, listen to fun Christmas songs, and most importantly, listen to slow Christmas songs so you can dance by the light of the Christmas tree.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
Is Your Christian Dating Relationship In God's Will?
I certainly believe in God’s will and know that Christ says that we should be busy doing the will of His/our Father. However the other words that follow in the emails often reflect a “rushing” toward a desired victory or success in Christian dating that seems premature.
Allow me to share some thoughts as relates to God’s will and Christian dating – especially as it relates to Christian dating using the Internet:
If you find yourself discussing marriage after only a few emails and you have never met face-to-face, I do not believe that God’s will could be known at this stage. Slow down and let a thorough process reveal if this is the right/best Christian dating relationship for you.
God uses others in our lives to confirm His will for us. No, they will not be perfect but they can give you some great insights. Do not ask someone who you think will just say, “Go for it!” Pray and think about who in your family and close friends are Christians and will pray with you about the developing Christian dating relationship.
Always seek the counsel of a licensed marriage counselor or a Pastor trained in counseling. They can bring spiritual and practical applications to your understanding that are very important for success in Christian dating. Do not go once and think that is enough. It will be a process over many sessions.
Step back from the Christian dating relationship and ask yourself some hard questions.
- “What is it about this person that I cannot live without?”
- “What is it about this person that would be very annoying after marriage?”
- Make a list of the pluses and minuses and look at them long and hard. If you do not know enough about them to make a list – especially on the negative side, you need to give the Christian dating relationship a lot more time. Everyone has negatives and if you do not see any, then I suggest that you are not seeing ALL of them.
It is wonderful to find someone with whom you can pray and discuss things of God. This is an essential ingredient to a strong and successful Christian relationship. Long distance prayers via phone and Internet are not the same as doing so in person over an extended period of time. Caution: Prayer develops intimacy and I suggest that this level of praying should not be done at the initial stage of a Christian dating relationship. The intimacy might mask other things that you should be observing while Christian dating takes its course.
What are each of your motivations in using Christian dating on the Internet to find a Christian dating relationship? You are both “hunters” – which is not a bad thing – but you must recognize the forces involved. TAKE TIME and let God confirm to you, over and over, in a variety of ways that this is the Christian dating relationship for you.
One final thought that comes to mind. Is your Christian dating relationship a partnership or is something out of balance with the give and take of the relationship? Are your discussions primarily focused on what satisfies each other? Is the other person self-centered and turns the conversations to themselves frequently? Relationships should be a healthy sharing and caring and not just doing what makes each other feel good.
Christian dating on the Internet is a wonderful vehicle to meet new Christian singles. It also expedites expectations – and they too often get ahead of reality. God can use Christian dating on the Internet to bring someone into your life. He has used it for other Christian singles and this could be the way He will do it for you. But do not rush into any Christian dating relationship too quickly when a great person begins to relate to you. Do your “DUE DILIGENCE”. Allow it time and enjoy the building of a healthy and deep Christian dating relationship. See how the other person is around family and friends. God will reveal His will over time to each of you.
May He guide you as you relate to other Christian singles and build wonderful friendships. Great friendships will develop the opportunity for the one you are seeking into a great Christian dating relationship.
Allow me to share some thoughts as relates to God’s will and Christian dating – especially as it relates to Christian dating using the Internet:
If you find yourself discussing marriage after only a few emails and you have never met face-to-face, I do not believe that God’s will could be known at this stage. Slow down and let a thorough process reveal if this is the right/best Christian dating relationship for you.
God uses others in our lives to confirm His will for us. No, they will not be perfect but they can give you some great insights. Do not ask someone who you think will just say, “Go for it!” Pray and think about who in your family and close friends are Christians and will pray with you about the developing Christian dating relationship.
Always seek the counsel of a licensed marriage counselor or a Pastor trained in counseling. They can bring spiritual and practical applications to your understanding that are very important for success in Christian dating. Do not go once and think that is enough. It will be a process over many sessions.
Step back from the Christian dating relationship and ask yourself some hard questions.
- “What is it about this person that I cannot live without?”
- “What is it about this person that would be very annoying after marriage?”
- Make a list of the pluses and minuses and look at them long and hard. If you do not know enough about them to make a list – especially on the negative side, you need to give the Christian dating relationship a lot more time. Everyone has negatives and if you do not see any, then I suggest that you are not seeing ALL of them.
It is wonderful to find someone with whom you can pray and discuss things of God. This is an essential ingredient to a strong and successful Christian relationship. Long distance prayers via phone and Internet are not the same as doing so in person over an extended period of time. Caution: Prayer develops intimacy and I suggest that this level of praying should not be done at the initial stage of a Christian dating relationship. The intimacy might mask other things that you should be observing while Christian dating takes its course.
What are each of your motivations in using Christian dating on the Internet to find a Christian dating relationship? You are both “hunters” – which is not a bad thing – but you must recognize the forces involved. TAKE TIME and let God confirm to you, over and over, in a variety of ways that this is the Christian dating relationship for you.
One final thought that comes to mind. Is your Christian dating relationship a partnership or is something out of balance with the give and take of the relationship? Are your discussions primarily focused on what satisfies each other? Is the other person self-centered and turns the conversations to themselves frequently? Relationships should be a healthy sharing and caring and not just doing what makes each other feel good.
Christian dating on the Internet is a wonderful vehicle to meet new Christian singles. It also expedites expectations – and they too often get ahead of reality. God can use Christian dating on the Internet to bring someone into your life. He has used it for other Christian singles and this could be the way He will do it for you. But do not rush into any Christian dating relationship too quickly when a great person begins to relate to you. Do your “DUE DILIGENCE”. Allow it time and enjoy the building of a healthy and deep Christian dating relationship. See how the other person is around family and friends. God will reveal His will over time to each of you.
May He guide you as you relate to other Christian singles and build wonderful friendships. Great friendships will develop the opportunity for the one you are seeking into a great Christian dating relationship.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Christian Dating: Love, Romance, or just a New Friend?
There are some major differences between Christian dating services and the average and ordinary dating service.
The most obvious difference is the foundational principles they build their philosophies upon. When a dating service touts the name of Christ you expect it to have a strong Biblical foundation. For those in the Christian community that are seeking like-minded companionship, this is a major factor in choosing a dating service.
Compare Christian dating services and their results.
Single Christians seeking help in finding a soul mate need to be selective when choosing a Christian Dating Service. There are many companies that do not have the experience or the clientele to provide the excellent service you desire. For them it may only be about the money, while for you it is deeply personal.
We were amazed at the number of Christian dating services available that left us wondering if they really are in fact Christian services.
When you see things like astrology and tarot cards being advertised on a site you better think twice about who you are trusting with your future and your money. Look around a site and see what products and services they are advertising. If they support something that you know would not be honoring to Jesus then flee that site post haste!
Don't trust a site just because it has "Christian" or "Church" as part of its name. You have to dig deeper. There are several sites that are run by the LDS and you may not want to support them. There are others that support many immoral activities so you need to know who you are trusting with your money and your future.
The most obvious difference is the foundational principles they build their philosophies upon. When a dating service touts the name of Christ you expect it to have a strong Biblical foundation. For those in the Christian community that are seeking like-minded companionship, this is a major factor in choosing a dating service.
Compare Christian dating services and their results.
Single Christians seeking help in finding a soul mate need to be selective when choosing a Christian Dating Service. There are many companies that do not have the experience or the clientele to provide the excellent service you desire. For them it may only be about the money, while for you it is deeply personal.
We were amazed at the number of Christian dating services available that left us wondering if they really are in fact Christian services.
When you see things like astrology and tarot cards being advertised on a site you better think twice about who you are trusting with your future and your money. Look around a site and see what products and services they are advertising. If they support something that you know would not be honoring to Jesus then flee that site post haste!
Don't trust a site just because it has "Christian" or "Church" as part of its name. You have to dig deeper. There are several sites that are run by the LDS and you may not want to support them. There are others that support many immoral activities so you need to know who you are trusting with your money and your future.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Cheap Dating Suggestions
Easy, Fun, and Romantic Ways To Impress Your Date on a Budget
1. Plan a Picnic
A romantic picnic in the park, your backyard, on the beach, etc. won't cost you much, but it makes a big impact. Put a basket together of sandwiches, drinks, chips and some utensils. You're ready to go. Most of the items you need are probably already in your fridge and pantry. Add in something romantic like poetry to read to your special person, and you have a nice, romantic date.
2. Movie Night at Home
Wait, don't you watch movies all the time? Sure, but do you always watch your date's favorite movies? Plan a night around popcorn, soda and whatever your date loves to watch. Pop in the DVD and enjoy the fact that your date is enjoying himself/herself. Talk about the movies after. Find out why he or she loves that movie. You'll be amazed at how much you learn about each other and how much fun you'll have.
3. Free Day/Night at the Museum or Zoo
Most museums or zoos have a day that is either discounted or free. You might have to do some research for this one, but in the end it will save you the entry fee. The places are public, so Christian teens don't have to worry much about temptations inherent in being alone, but you can have a pretty fun and romantic date together as you take in the sights, sounds, and smells of the culture surrounding you.
4. Do Something Athletic
Hiking, biking, playing ultimate Frisbee, etc. can all be great dates if you are both pretty active and athletic. Being active can be a lot of fun if you both enjoy it. If you know a few other athletic couples, you can even make it a pretty cheap group date.
5. Find a Prayer Meeting or Local Church Youth Group Event
Your church may not be hosting a unique speaker or having a prayer meeting this weekend, but you may know of another church that is. Look in your newspaper to see who is coming, and take your significant other. Most of these events are free or low-cost, and you get to enjoy one another while also getting closer to God.
1. Plan a Picnic
A romantic picnic in the park, your backyard, on the beach, etc. won't cost you much, but it makes a big impact. Put a basket together of sandwiches, drinks, chips and some utensils. You're ready to go. Most of the items you need are probably already in your fridge and pantry. Add in something romantic like poetry to read to your special person, and you have a nice, romantic date.
2. Movie Night at Home
Wait, don't you watch movies all the time? Sure, but do you always watch your date's favorite movies? Plan a night around popcorn, soda and whatever your date loves to watch. Pop in the DVD and enjoy the fact that your date is enjoying himself/herself. Talk about the movies after. Find out why he or she loves that movie. You'll be amazed at how much you learn about each other and how much fun you'll have.
3. Free Day/Night at the Museum or Zoo
Most museums or zoos have a day that is either discounted or free. You might have to do some research for this one, but in the end it will save you the entry fee. The places are public, so Christian teens don't have to worry much about temptations inherent in being alone, but you can have a pretty fun and romantic date together as you take in the sights, sounds, and smells of the culture surrounding you.
4. Do Something Athletic
Hiking, biking, playing ultimate Frisbee, etc. can all be great dates if you are both pretty active and athletic. Being active can be a lot of fun if you both enjoy it. If you know a few other athletic couples, you can even make it a pretty cheap group date.
5. Find a Prayer Meeting or Local Church Youth Group Event
Your church may not be hosting a unique speaker or having a prayer meeting this weekend, but you may know of another church that is. Look in your newspaper to see who is coming, and take your significant other. Most of these events are free or low-cost, and you get to enjoy one another while also getting closer to God.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
A Romantic First Date
A bouquet of flowers for your first date!
In an ideal world those flowers would always make a big impression on your date. Unfortunately in reality, first date romance falls flat a lot more often than it succeeds. Usually it’s because the gifts are chosen without being based on any specific knowledge about the person.
When you bring a romantic gift on a first date, three things can happen…
1. The gift causes a problem and has to be rejected.
Suppose you bring a bouquet of Tulips only to learn that she is allergic to them. Or what if she believes that flowers are a waste of money. In either of this cases, your gesture may do more harm than good. In this case you may still score a few points, but only because its “the thought that counts!”
Of course in this case, it would have been better if you left the gift at home & just brought the thoughts!
2. Your date is indifferent or only mildly pleased with the gift.
Suppose you bring a box of delicious chocolates. If your date likes chocolate, you’ve done well. After all, your gift may be perceived as thoughtful and she may even enjoy the candy. This falls into the nice gifts category. Your date may even say something like, “You brought me candy? Isn’t that nice!”
If you are aiming for “nice” this is a good thing though it also means you probably left “points” on the table. However if you are looking to really wow your date you need to learn about the third possibility…
3. Your Date Is Astounded!
It takes work to reach this level but it’s not impossible. All you need to know is a few things about your date.
Ask yourself these questions:
Where did/does she attend school?
Where did you meet her?
Has she ever been married?
What was she drinking when you met?
What does she drive?
--Happy dating guys!
In an ideal world those flowers would always make a big impression on your date. Unfortunately in reality, first date romance falls flat a lot more often than it succeeds. Usually it’s because the gifts are chosen without being based on any specific knowledge about the person.
When you bring a romantic gift on a first date, three things can happen…
1. The gift causes a problem and has to be rejected.
Suppose you bring a bouquet of Tulips only to learn that she is allergic to them. Or what if she believes that flowers are a waste of money. In either of this cases, your gesture may do more harm than good. In this case you may still score a few points, but only because its “the thought that counts!”
Of course in this case, it would have been better if you left the gift at home & just brought the thoughts!
2. Your date is indifferent or only mildly pleased with the gift.
Suppose you bring a box of delicious chocolates. If your date likes chocolate, you’ve done well. After all, your gift may be perceived as thoughtful and she may even enjoy the candy. This falls into the nice gifts category. Your date may even say something like, “You brought me candy? Isn’t that nice!”
If you are aiming for “nice” this is a good thing though it also means you probably left “points” on the table. However if you are looking to really wow your date you need to learn about the third possibility…
3. Your Date Is Astounded!
It takes work to reach this level but it’s not impossible. All you need to know is a few things about your date.
Ask yourself these questions:
Where did/does she attend school?
Where did you meet her?
Has she ever been married?
What was she drinking when you met?
What does she drive?
--Happy dating guys!
Monday, November 2, 2009
Feel Good, Educational, and Group Dating Ideas
• Throw a fun themed (say Hawaiian) party
• Have a barbecue
• Get the board games out and play couples against couples or guys against girls
• Play a sporting event like bowling or volleyball
• Plan a progressive dinner at different friends’ homes
• Miniature golf
• Skiing or tobaggoning
• Camping
• Going to church services or church related activities together
• Volunteer together at a local charitable organization like the Salvation Army or Habitat for Humanity
• Visit a mutual friend or church family that needs encouraging, meals, etc.
• Visit a nursing home
• Do a Bible book study together
• Visit a museum or historical sight
• Take a guided tour of a nearby city
• Take a couple of lessons at the local community center on something that interests both of you
• Have a barbecue
• Get the board games out and play couples against couples or guys against girls
• Play a sporting event like bowling or volleyball
• Plan a progressive dinner at different friends’ homes
• Miniature golf
• Skiing or tobaggoning
• Camping
• Going to church services or church related activities together
• Volunteer together at a local charitable organization like the Salvation Army or Habitat for Humanity
• Visit a mutual friend or church family that needs encouraging, meals, etc.
• Visit a nursing home
• Do a Bible book study together
• Visit a museum or historical sight
• Take a guided tour of a nearby city
• Take a couple of lessons at the local community center on something that interests both of you
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Romantic Dating Ideas
Here are some examples of dating ideas that will provide a little romance with your partner.. Enjoy your date!
• Go on a picnic in the park, at the lake or beach
• Go for a nice. slow drive in the country
• Take a nature walk hand in hand
• Go to the Boardwalk or Carnival in your area
• Go to seasonal festivals (Strawberry, Lobster, etc)
• Enjoy arts and craft shows together
• Horseback riding
• Go to a concert or play
• Star gaze together. Look up when meteor showers are prevalent, and wish upon some “shooting stars” while enjoying the summer breeze
• Prepare a dinner together, and eat by candlelight
• Go ice skating together
• Go to a theme park
• Go antique hunting
• Go shopping at a mall you have never been to together
• Take a trip to the city and window shop
• Go to a movie and share a bag of popcorn
• Go ballroom dancing, or take ballroom dancing lessons together.
• Take a bike ride in the country, mountains or along the beach
• Go to the zoo
• Work on a puzzle together while enjoying great conversation
• Go out for ice cream at a quaint shop
• Go on a picnic in the park, at the lake or beach
• Go for a nice. slow drive in the country
• Take a nature walk hand in hand
• Go to the Boardwalk or Carnival in your area
• Go to seasonal festivals (Strawberry, Lobster, etc)
• Enjoy arts and craft shows together
• Horseback riding
• Go to a concert or play
• Star gaze together. Look up when meteor showers are prevalent, and wish upon some “shooting stars” while enjoying the summer breeze
• Prepare a dinner together, and eat by candlelight
• Go ice skating together
• Go to a theme park
• Go antique hunting
• Go shopping at a mall you have never been to together
• Take a trip to the city and window shop
• Go to a movie and share a bag of popcorn
• Go ballroom dancing, or take ballroom dancing lessons together.
• Take a bike ride in the country, mountains or along the beach
• Go to the zoo
• Work on a puzzle together while enjoying great conversation
• Go out for ice cream at a quaint shop
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Christian Online Dating
Oftentimes it is a bit more difficult for a sincerely dedicated Christian single to meet other believers who share their commitment and values. However, a great manner to meet other Christian singles that share your same values and beliefs is to check out some excellent Christian dating sites on the Internet.
Online dating has grown to be very popular in the last few years. It can be so convenient and you can save so much time by encountering individuals online. You can check out profiles, converse via chat rooms and emails and truly get to know an individual before you meet for a date.
As a devoted Christian single, online dating may be the finest solution ever for meeting other like-minded individuals. Many of the conventional ways of meeting people, such as frequenting the bars or clubs, are not attractive to those who are committed to a Christian way of life, however, you still want to meet other people. Online Christian dating services are a great way to meet many people who all share the same values as you do in a very short period of time.
Having similar principles and values is one of the greatest choices to begin a great relationship. One of the most influential components of a long-lasting and successful marriage or partnership is a relationship where both parties have similar values. A Christian dating site can help you to hook up with other individuals who share the same values as you do.
In real life it can be very tricky to find somebody who is genuinely committed to being a Christian. If this is something that is of maximum priority in your life and you put God first, above all else, you can locate others who share this promise on a good Christian dating site.
While, of course, there are abundant dating services online to select from, there are many services that have features or promote lifestyles that are not in alignment with strong Christian values. Finding someone who shares your promise to Christ and His teachings is vital for a companion or a long-term relationship. A good Christian dating website is the only online dating solution that you will want.
When filling out a profile at a excellent online Christian dating service, make sure that you are specific about the things that are significant to you. You want to be able to appeal to the individuals who are the ones who will be most well-matched with you. Also, you will appreciate it when others are specific and detailed in their profiles also.
Online dating is a great thing for Christian singles. It permits you to find other individuals who share your deep convictions and strong ideals, all in one place that is easy to spend time at and allows you to get to meet and know individuals that share your promise to Christ.
Online dating has grown to be very popular in the last few years. It can be so convenient and you can save so much time by encountering individuals online. You can check out profiles, converse via chat rooms and emails and truly get to know an individual before you meet for a date.
As a devoted Christian single, online dating may be the finest solution ever for meeting other like-minded individuals. Many of the conventional ways of meeting people, such as frequenting the bars or clubs, are not attractive to those who are committed to a Christian way of life, however, you still want to meet other people. Online Christian dating services are a great way to meet many people who all share the same values as you do in a very short period of time.
Having similar principles and values is one of the greatest choices to begin a great relationship. One of the most influential components of a long-lasting and successful marriage or partnership is a relationship where both parties have similar values. A Christian dating site can help you to hook up with other individuals who share the same values as you do.
In real life it can be very tricky to find somebody who is genuinely committed to being a Christian. If this is something that is of maximum priority in your life and you put God first, above all else, you can locate others who share this promise on a good Christian dating site.
While, of course, there are abundant dating services online to select from, there are many services that have features or promote lifestyles that are not in alignment with strong Christian values. Finding someone who shares your promise to Christ and His teachings is vital for a companion or a long-term relationship. A good Christian dating website is the only online dating solution that you will want.
When filling out a profile at a excellent online Christian dating service, make sure that you are specific about the things that are significant to you. You want to be able to appeal to the individuals who are the ones who will be most well-matched with you. Also, you will appreciate it when others are specific and detailed in their profiles also.
Online dating is a great thing for Christian singles. It permits you to find other individuals who share your deep convictions and strong ideals, all in one place that is easy to spend time at and allows you to get to meet and know individuals that share your promise to Christ.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Christian Dating: On Dating Fellow Believers
God is pretty picky on this one, and the Bible makes this issue very clear.
Deuteronomy 7:3: “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons” (NIV)
2Corinthians 6:14: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NIV)
The Bible seriously warns us about dating non-Christians. While you may not be looking at marrying anyone at the moment, it should always be in the back of your head. Why get involved emotionally with someone that you should not marry? This does not mean you cannot be friends with that person, but you should not date them.
This also means that you should avoid “missionary dating,” which is dating a non-believer in the hopes that you can convert him or her. Your intentions may be noble, but the relationships rarely work out. Some Christians have even gotten married to non-believers, hoping that they can convert their spouse, but often the relationships end up in disaster.
On the other hand, some Christian teens believe that interracial dating is inappropriate due to the scriptures that tells Christians to avoid being yoked to non-Christians. However, there is actually nothing in the Bible that prohibits dating people of other races. The Bible places more emphasis on Christians dating other Christians. It is culture and society that place an emphasis on race.
So make sure you are only dating those who share your beliefs. Otherwise you may find that your relationship is a struggle rather than a joy.
Be careful of recreational dating, where you date for the sake of dating. God calls us to love one another, but the scripture is clear that He asks us to be careful. While love is a beautiful thing, the breaking off of relationships is hard. There is a reason they call it a “broken heart.” God understands the power in love and the damage a broken heart can do. This is why it is important for Christian teens to really pray, know their hearts, and listen to God when they decide to date.
Deuteronomy 7:3: “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons” (NIV)
2Corinthians 6:14: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NIV)
The Bible seriously warns us about dating non-Christians. While you may not be looking at marrying anyone at the moment, it should always be in the back of your head. Why get involved emotionally with someone that you should not marry? This does not mean you cannot be friends with that person, but you should not date them.
This also means that you should avoid “missionary dating,” which is dating a non-believer in the hopes that you can convert him or her. Your intentions may be noble, but the relationships rarely work out. Some Christians have even gotten married to non-believers, hoping that they can convert their spouse, but often the relationships end up in disaster.
On the other hand, some Christian teens believe that interracial dating is inappropriate due to the scriptures that tells Christians to avoid being yoked to non-Christians. However, there is actually nothing in the Bible that prohibits dating people of other races. The Bible places more emphasis on Christians dating other Christians. It is culture and society that place an emphasis on race.
So make sure you are only dating those who share your beliefs. Otherwise you may find that your relationship is a struggle rather than a joy.
Be careful of recreational dating, where you date for the sake of dating. God calls us to love one another, but the scripture is clear that He asks us to be careful. While love is a beautiful thing, the breaking off of relationships is hard. There is a reason they call it a “broken heart.” God understands the power in love and the damage a broken heart can do. This is why it is important for Christian teens to really pray, know their hearts, and listen to God when they decide to date.
Monday, October 5, 2009
Christian Teens on Dating
While most people have differing opinions about dating, it is one area of the Bible where there is not a lot of information. However, Christian teens can get some idea of God’s expectations from certain scripture verses:
Genesis 2:24: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)
Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 13:4-7: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (NIV)
These three scriptures give insight into the Christian dating life. We need to realize that God means for us to meet the ONE person that we are meant to marry. According to Genesis, a man will leave home to marry one women to become one flesh. You do not need to date a lot of people – just the right one.
Also, Christian teens need to guard their hearts. The word “love” is thrown around with little thought. Yet, we often live for love. We live for God’s love first and foremost, but we also live for the love of others. While there are many definitions of love, 1Corinthians tells us how God defines love.
It is love that should drive Christian teens to date, but it should not be the shallow version of love. When you date it should be taken seriously. You should know the person you are dating and know their beliefs.
You should check your potential boyfriend against the values listed in 1 Corinthians. Ask yourself if the two of you are patient and kind to one another. Are you envious of one another? Do you boast about one another or to each other? Go through the characteristics to measure your relationship.
Genesis 2:24: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)
Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 13:4-7: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (NIV)
These three scriptures give insight into the Christian dating life. We need to realize that God means for us to meet the ONE person that we are meant to marry. According to Genesis, a man will leave home to marry one women to become one flesh. You do not need to date a lot of people – just the right one.
Also, Christian teens need to guard their hearts. The word “love” is thrown around with little thought. Yet, we often live for love. We live for God’s love first and foremost, but we also live for the love of others. While there are many definitions of love, 1Corinthians tells us how God defines love.
It is love that should drive Christian teens to date, but it should not be the shallow version of love. When you date it should be taken seriously. You should know the person you are dating and know their beliefs.
You should check your potential boyfriend against the values listed in 1 Corinthians. Ask yourself if the two of you are patient and kind to one another. Are you envious of one another? Do you boast about one another or to each other? Go through the characteristics to measure your relationship.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Tips for Christians When Dating
Christian singles are in a battle every day when it comes to dating. As Christians we all are called to a higher standard of living than when we walked in our fleshly desires. The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." (NIV). Whether we are young or old, the battle rages on in our flesh to remain pure and holy while we are dating. We must honor God with our bodies and we also want to honor those we are dating. But we have help through the Holy Spirit who guides us and we know that Jesus has overcome the world! We don't have to face the battle alone.
Here are some very practical dating tips that you can apply while dating. Some of these dating tips may seem a bit rigid, but when followed you’ll find that you end up with a beautiful relationship on the other end; and you’ll have no regrets.
• Pray – Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honor Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper mind-set for your time together.
• Talk a lot – There’s no better way to get to know someone than by talking to them about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if this might be a relationship that you should pursue.
• Let’s be friends! – This is an important dating tip to remember. Don’t forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain "just friends", the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point. It's great being married to your best friend!
• Pray in groups – What in the world does that mean? This sounds like an odd dating tip. What we’re suggesting is that you don’t pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is so very important in any relationship so please don't misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.
The goal in any Christian relationship is to honor God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.
• Choose to not kiss – At least until you are engaged to be married. Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It’s better to not kiss at all until your wedding day!
• Include another couple – You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dating situations to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you’ll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.
• Always treat each other with respect – If you respect the person you are with then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself "what would Jesus do?" and then do it!
Don't simply read these dating tips and then not try to apply any of them to your dating situations. Dating is a wonderful experience and should be enjoyed by both people in the relationship. If you came searching for these dating tips then you have a desire to honor your date and honor God with the choices you will make while dating. We pray these dating tips will bless your life and your future relationships.
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things." Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Happy Dating!
Here are some very practical dating tips that you can apply while dating. Some of these dating tips may seem a bit rigid, but when followed you’ll find that you end up with a beautiful relationship on the other end; and you’ll have no regrets.
• Pray – Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honor Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper mind-set for your time together.
• Talk a lot – There’s no better way to get to know someone than by talking to them about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if this might be a relationship that you should pursue.
• Let’s be friends! – This is an important dating tip to remember. Don’t forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain "just friends", the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point. It's great being married to your best friend!
• Pray in groups – What in the world does that mean? This sounds like an odd dating tip. What we’re suggesting is that you don’t pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is so very important in any relationship so please don't misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.
The goal in any Christian relationship is to honor God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.
• Choose to not kiss – At least until you are engaged to be married. Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It’s better to not kiss at all until your wedding day!
• Include another couple – You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dating situations to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you’ll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.
• Always treat each other with respect – If you respect the person you are with then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself "what would Jesus do?" and then do it!
Don't simply read these dating tips and then not try to apply any of them to your dating situations. Dating is a wonderful experience and should be enjoyed by both people in the relationship. If you came searching for these dating tips then you have a desire to honor your date and honor God with the choices you will make while dating. We pray these dating tips will bless your life and your future relationships.
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things." Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Happy Dating!
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Tips for Speed Dating
Smile.
There's no quicker way to improve your looks and make a great impact than to smile. Psychology and body language experts agree that it's one of the most effective ways to make yourself more attractive and approachable. It's not necessary to do your most convincing game show spokesmodel impression - just your usual "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick.
The Color Cue.
If you want to create an on-the-spot thrill, wearing red is the way to go. According to color experts, the most stimulating color you can wear is red, which actually increases blood flow. Experts says that women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. They says, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The blue guy is a fabulous candidate for a long-term relationship -- someone who's dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.
How to Score.
Be sure to write the person’s name next to their number, that way if you get mixed up somehow (don’t feel bad, it happens all the time) it will be easier for organizers to figure out what’s what and who’s who. Be sure to keep your scorecard facedown on the table during your date, nobody else needs to know if you’re the most selective person on the planet or you’re just playing the odds, hoping for the big winner.
First Things First.
Get any deal-breakers out of the way right away. Hate smokers? Ask now if he’ll be looking for an ashtray on the break. Horribly allergic to cats? Find out quick if she’s a magnet for four-legged strays. You’ll save yourself some trouble later if you get the deal-breakers out on the table.
Where are you from? What do you do?
Try to avoid asking the same old boring questions. By the time someone has asked you what you do for a living 34 times, it’s bound to be pretty stale. Ask questions that are fun or unusual but not bizarre, and humor is always good.
Good: What would your best friend say about you?
Bad: If you were an axe murderer, where would you keep the bodies?
Keep it Clean.
Studies have shown that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To jumpstart attraction, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented lotion or perfume. Experts says that wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction. Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, put some licorice in your shirt pocket. And, if you're at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
The Safety Drill.
Once you’ve made a few matches and you decide to meet for a date, remember to always meet in a public place, or even in a group date setting. Carry a cell phone, and let someone at home know where you’re going, who you’ll be with and when you’ll be home. Even though you’ve already met in person, it’s always best to be cautious, be smart and be safe.
There's no quicker way to improve your looks and make a great impact than to smile. Psychology and body language experts agree that it's one of the most effective ways to make yourself more attractive and approachable. It's not necessary to do your most convincing game show spokesmodel impression - just your usual "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick.
The Color Cue.
If you want to create an on-the-spot thrill, wearing red is the way to go. According to color experts, the most stimulating color you can wear is red, which actually increases blood flow. Experts says that women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. They says, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The blue guy is a fabulous candidate for a long-term relationship -- someone who's dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.
How to Score.
Be sure to write the person’s name next to their number, that way if you get mixed up somehow (don’t feel bad, it happens all the time) it will be easier for organizers to figure out what’s what and who’s who. Be sure to keep your scorecard facedown on the table during your date, nobody else needs to know if you’re the most selective person on the planet or you’re just playing the odds, hoping for the big winner.
First Things First.
Get any deal-breakers out of the way right away. Hate smokers? Ask now if he’ll be looking for an ashtray on the break. Horribly allergic to cats? Find out quick if she’s a magnet for four-legged strays. You’ll save yourself some trouble later if you get the deal-breakers out on the table.
Where are you from? What do you do?
Try to avoid asking the same old boring questions. By the time someone has asked you what you do for a living 34 times, it’s bound to be pretty stale. Ask questions that are fun or unusual but not bizarre, and humor is always good.
Good: What would your best friend say about you?
Bad: If you were an axe murderer, where would you keep the bodies?
Keep it Clean.
Studies have shown that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To jumpstart attraction, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented lotion or perfume. Experts says that wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction. Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, put some licorice in your shirt pocket. And, if you're at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
The Safety Drill.
Once you’ve made a few matches and you decide to meet for a date, remember to always meet in a public place, or even in a group date setting. Carry a cell phone, and let someone at home know where you’re going, who you’ll be with and when you’ll be home. Even though you’ve already met in person, it’s always best to be cautious, be smart and be safe.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
First Date Conversation That Wins You Second Dates
Your ability to have fun on a first date and win yourself a second one is rarely about the topic of conversation. Read these tips on what is important when trying to create successful dating conversations...
Practice your first date conversation
Practice does indeed make perfect. If you don't feel your conversational skills are very good, particularly under the added pressure of a first date, then you're going to need to practice. Nobody becomes a great conversationalist by learning a few questions or topics (although that's a good start). Read up on some of the tips to having great conversations and practice them until you master them.
Don't make your first date a big deal
The more tense you get about a date, the more difficult you'll find it to create an interesting conversation. Here are some ways to release some of the tension before your dates:
• Remember - it's highly unlikely this person is your ideal partner, so in reality you haven't that much to lose if you don't get a second date
• Work on getting more first dates. I know that's not such great advice if you're just about to go on your one and only date in months! But, if you have an excess of first dates then you'll be a lot more relaxed about dating, because if this one doesn't work out, you have a number of others that probably will
• Fear is generally an indication of a lack of preparation. So work out 5 questions that will kick start a conversation.
• Remember that not all first dates are meant to lead to second dates. If you don't get a second date even though you wanted one it's because the two of you aren't compatible - not because you aren't a nice person.
The conversation topic should be... about them
People love to talk about themselves and things that interest them. One of your primary aims in a first date conversation (or any dating conversation) is to let them enjoy themselves. If they're having fun with you on a date, then the chances are they'll want to go out with you again. To do this you need to ask them questions they're able to answer by talking about things they enjoy. Good examples include:
• What do you love to do in your spare time?
• What are you most passionate about? Why?
• Who's your favorite film star? What is it about them that you love?
Ask enough questions on a date that make them feel good and they'll have had a fun date with you. And if they have a fun date with you, chances are, they'll want to date you again.
Practice your first date conversation
Practice does indeed make perfect. If you don't feel your conversational skills are very good, particularly under the added pressure of a first date, then you're going to need to practice. Nobody becomes a great conversationalist by learning a few questions or topics (although that's a good start). Read up on some of the tips to having great conversations and practice them until you master them.
Don't make your first date a big deal
The more tense you get about a date, the more difficult you'll find it to create an interesting conversation. Here are some ways to release some of the tension before your dates:
• Remember - it's highly unlikely this person is your ideal partner, so in reality you haven't that much to lose if you don't get a second date
• Work on getting more first dates. I know that's not such great advice if you're just about to go on your one and only date in months! But, if you have an excess of first dates then you'll be a lot more relaxed about dating, because if this one doesn't work out, you have a number of others that probably will
• Fear is generally an indication of a lack of preparation. So work out 5 questions that will kick start a conversation.
• Remember that not all first dates are meant to lead to second dates. If you don't get a second date even though you wanted one it's because the two of you aren't compatible - not because you aren't a nice person.
The conversation topic should be... about them
People love to talk about themselves and things that interest them. One of your primary aims in a first date conversation (or any dating conversation) is to let them enjoy themselves. If they're having fun with you on a date, then the chances are they'll want to go out with you again. To do this you need to ask them questions they're able to answer by talking about things they enjoy. Good examples include:
• What do you love to do in your spare time?
• What are you most passionate about? Why?
• Who's your favorite film star? What is it about them that you love?
Ask enough questions on a date that make them feel good and they'll have had a fun date with you. And if they have a fun date with you, chances are, they'll want to date you again.
Monday, September 7, 2009
Ice Breaker: Conversation Starter Suggestions for First Date
“What’s your favorite sport? Do you follow any teams?”
Guys love to talk about sports, and they’ll be more than willing to share the details on their favorite team. Asking this kind of question tells a guy that you’re willing to go halfway and that you’re not going to find his statistics-spouting boring as dirt. It will relax him immediately … and, if you like sports, too, it will be a match made in heaven.
“That’s a cool watch/shirt/pair of shoes. Where did you get it?”
The fact that you’ve noticed some aspect of his appearance will mean a lot to him. He’ll feel flattered that you’ve been checking him out, and examining it more closely will require that you lean close and do some light stroking for a closer look. This is a great opportunity to show how fantastic you think he looks … and guys don’t get compliments like that often.
“Have you ever done X?”
Your first date is when you start to find common ground, and comparing hobbies and experiences is the first place to start. Asking your date about his experiences can allow him to brag a little or give you the opportunity to bring up cool things that you have done.
“Have you ever been to Y?”
Everyone likes talking about places they’ve been. Ask him if he has ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club, a coffee shop, a museum, or even a park or hiking trail. If he hasn’t been there, and you are hitting it off by that point, he may very well see that as a suggestion to use when asking you for a second date!
Guys love to talk about sports, and they’ll be more than willing to share the details on their favorite team. Asking this kind of question tells a guy that you’re willing to go halfway and that you’re not going to find his statistics-spouting boring as dirt. It will relax him immediately … and, if you like sports, too, it will be a match made in heaven.
“That’s a cool watch/shirt/pair of shoes. Where did you get it?”
The fact that you’ve noticed some aspect of his appearance will mean a lot to him. He’ll feel flattered that you’ve been checking him out, and examining it more closely will require that you lean close and do some light stroking for a closer look. This is a great opportunity to show how fantastic you think he looks … and guys don’t get compliments like that often.
“Have you ever done X?”
Your first date is when you start to find common ground, and comparing hobbies and experiences is the first place to start. Asking your date about his experiences can allow him to brag a little or give you the opportunity to bring up cool things that you have done.
“Have you ever been to Y?”
Everyone likes talking about places they’ve been. Ask him if he has ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club, a coffee shop, a museum, or even a park or hiking trail. If he hasn’t been there, and you are hitting it off by that point, he may very well see that as a suggestion to use when asking you for a second date!
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
What to Talk About on First Date (For Women)
Don’t get caught with nothing to say on a first date! The women who can keep a guy’s interest from the moment he meets her know a secret: guys love relaxed, warm, funny, positive gals who like hearing them talk. There is nothing that a guy finds more flattering than to be asked about his opinions and experiences.
So when you find yourself in a situation where the silence starts to grow, ask a question! What do you want to know about this guy? What intrigues you?
When you’re on a first date, remember the following tips:
Keep all conversation positive. Never bring up negative things, like how hard your life is right now, how complicated things are with your parents, or how you’re sorry that your nails are chipped because you didn’t have time for a manicure. Never complain about anything. Avoid talking about your expectations for a relationship and any controversial subjects until you get to know him better.
Relax! When you are nervous, you often speak faster, and you may appear more serious, intense, or silly than you usually are. Before you go out on your date, you may want to try watching a funny movie. Laughing will relax all your muscles, send good feelings to your brain, and gets your blood pumping. You’ll greet your guy with a great big smile on your face—and he’ll think it’s all because of him.
When he is talking, lean forward and actively listen. Flirtatious signals such as crossing your legs, playing with your hair, or even cupping your hand under your chin may make him aware of your attributes. Guys respond to visual cues much better than verbal ones. If you’re interested, let your body do the talking for you.
Don’t ask the same old questions. Everyone gets asked what they do or where they’re from. Try some questions that he’s never been asked before. If you can, focus the question on something that you’ve noticed about him specifically.
Avoid asking him questions about his job or the kind of car he drives or whether he owns his own house. It may appear as if you’re a gold-digger who won’t take any guy who makes less than Donald Trump.
If you’ve got any interesting hobbies or an unusual job, play it up! Guys love independent women with adventurous streaks. They imagine that she might just spring some new kind of adventure on them. Just don’t go on about it too long. He may look as if he’s enjoying listening to you, but turn the conversation to him so that you get to know as much about him as possible … which is the point of the date, after all. You already know about yourself!
Give him a little help, but don’t do all the work yourself. As much as we may believe that the world is 50% men and 50% women, and all responsibilities should be divided accordingly, in the realm of romance men still like to feel as if they wear the pants. Help a guy along a bit on conversation if things are floundering, but let him guide the conversation as much as you can. He wants to make a good impression on you just as much as you want to make a good impression on him.
So when you find yourself in a situation where the silence starts to grow, ask a question! What do you want to know about this guy? What intrigues you?
When you’re on a first date, remember the following tips:
Keep all conversation positive. Never bring up negative things, like how hard your life is right now, how complicated things are with your parents, or how you’re sorry that your nails are chipped because you didn’t have time for a manicure. Never complain about anything. Avoid talking about your expectations for a relationship and any controversial subjects until you get to know him better.
Relax! When you are nervous, you often speak faster, and you may appear more serious, intense, or silly than you usually are. Before you go out on your date, you may want to try watching a funny movie. Laughing will relax all your muscles, send good feelings to your brain, and gets your blood pumping. You’ll greet your guy with a great big smile on your face—and he’ll think it’s all because of him.
When he is talking, lean forward and actively listen. Flirtatious signals such as crossing your legs, playing with your hair, or even cupping your hand under your chin may make him aware of your attributes. Guys respond to visual cues much better than verbal ones. If you’re interested, let your body do the talking for you.
Don’t ask the same old questions. Everyone gets asked what they do or where they’re from. Try some questions that he’s never been asked before. If you can, focus the question on something that you’ve noticed about him specifically.
Avoid asking him questions about his job or the kind of car he drives or whether he owns his own house. It may appear as if you’re a gold-digger who won’t take any guy who makes less than Donald Trump.
If you’ve got any interesting hobbies or an unusual job, play it up! Guys love independent women with adventurous streaks. They imagine that she might just spring some new kind of adventure on them. Just don’t go on about it too long. He may look as if he’s enjoying listening to you, but turn the conversation to him so that you get to know as much about him as possible … which is the point of the date, after all. You already know about yourself!
Give him a little help, but don’t do all the work yourself. As much as we may believe that the world is 50% men and 50% women, and all responsibilities should be divided accordingly, in the realm of romance men still like to feel as if they wear the pants. Help a guy along a bit on conversation if things are floundering, but let him guide the conversation as much as you can. He wants to make a good impression on you just as much as you want to make a good impression on him.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
What to Talk About on First Date (For Men)
Avoid her past
Generally speaking, one should never ask about past lovers on a first date. In fact, this should be avoided until she initiates the topic (if she ever does). She might have been hurt or may still be in love with her ex. You also prefer to start with a clean slate, so becoming chummy with her and comforting her about past mistakes may not be the greatest strategy on the first date. The goal is to take off her lipstick by the end of the evening, not help her wipe the tears as they smudge her mascara.
Got any brothers or sisters?
Usually, a safe topic of conversation is asking about siblings (don't ask her if she's got cute sisters). Again, asking about her parents could backfire if they experienced a divorce or separation, especially at a young age. But sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings and score points for you since you're showing a caring side and an interest in her family life.
Traveled anywhere special?
A tricky way to spark a girl's interest is by asking about her past travel destinations and where she intends on visiting in the future. The upside is that if she mentions a spot she always wanted to visit, lo and behold, here comes the knight in shining armor (that's you, boy) and offers to make her dreams come true one day by taking her there. This also provides both people with some insight about one's cultural background and their openness to new adventures.
Drinks anyone?
A topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you prefers. Again, not only can you gauge whether or not you share culinary preferences, but the potential topics are endless and provide you with a safe topic of conversation unless, of course, you are dating someone with an addiction to food or alcohol.
Any career plans?
Asking a girl about her past education and whether she intends on returning to school is admittedly a double-edged sword. She might love to go on and on about her numerous academic achievements, but she might break down and admit that her current job has absolutely nothing to do with what she studied. In either case, you are provided with a golden opportunity to reassure and encourage her with an abundance of compliments.
How's your job?
If you are years removed from your college years, then talking about work and career goals just might be a safer topic. Admittedly, do not let her go into the mundane details about how fed up she is with her life, which would explain why she's on her seventh margarita. But generally speaking, people like to brag about work, no matter how routine it is. It also gives you an idea regarding whether or not you are dating a future CEO or a waitress for life (not that there is anything wrong with that, of course).
Got any friends?
Ask her about her friends. Even if you do not know them, she will love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her and where she met them (and all of the things they did together). Don't doze off though, my good man, this is when you get precious details about her. If you ever make it further than the first date, her friends are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.
Free time frolicking
Does she roller blade, collect stamps or dance? How about sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you. Moreover, you gain some insight to follow-up questions.
Weekend's peakin'
Not only do you get a clearer picture of what life with her will be like after the honeymoon, but you are also sending mixed messages, which is not entirely bad at first. Yes, mind games are childish, but keeping your cards at your chest gives you leverage. She will ask herself: "Does he want to see me on weekends?"
Be bold and look ahead
Now, assuming she is having a good time and she is looking at you with that sparkle in her eye... In other words, if her body language is positive, you can look ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future. Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what other great adventures you have in store for her.
Generally speaking, one should never ask about past lovers on a first date. In fact, this should be avoided until she initiates the topic (if she ever does). She might have been hurt or may still be in love with her ex. You also prefer to start with a clean slate, so becoming chummy with her and comforting her about past mistakes may not be the greatest strategy on the first date. The goal is to take off her lipstick by the end of the evening, not help her wipe the tears as they smudge her mascara.
Got any brothers or sisters?
Usually, a safe topic of conversation is asking about siblings (don't ask her if she's got cute sisters). Again, asking about her parents could backfire if they experienced a divorce or separation, especially at a young age. But sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings and score points for you since you're showing a caring side and an interest in her family life.
Traveled anywhere special?
A tricky way to spark a girl's interest is by asking about her past travel destinations and where she intends on visiting in the future. The upside is that if she mentions a spot she always wanted to visit, lo and behold, here comes the knight in shining armor (that's you, boy) and offers to make her dreams come true one day by taking her there. This also provides both people with some insight about one's cultural background and their openness to new adventures.
Drinks anyone?
A topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you prefers. Again, not only can you gauge whether or not you share culinary preferences, but the potential topics are endless and provide you with a safe topic of conversation unless, of course, you are dating someone with an addiction to food or alcohol.
Any career plans?
Asking a girl about her past education and whether she intends on returning to school is admittedly a double-edged sword. She might love to go on and on about her numerous academic achievements, but she might break down and admit that her current job has absolutely nothing to do with what she studied. In either case, you are provided with a golden opportunity to reassure and encourage her with an abundance of compliments.
How's your job?
If you are years removed from your college years, then talking about work and career goals just might be a safer topic. Admittedly, do not let her go into the mundane details about how fed up she is with her life, which would explain why she's on her seventh margarita. But generally speaking, people like to brag about work, no matter how routine it is. It also gives you an idea regarding whether or not you are dating a future CEO or a waitress for life (not that there is anything wrong with that, of course).
Got any friends?
Ask her about her friends. Even if you do not know them, she will love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her and where she met them (and all of the things they did together). Don't doze off though, my good man, this is when you get precious details about her. If you ever make it further than the first date, her friends are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.
Free time frolicking
Does she roller blade, collect stamps or dance? How about sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you. Moreover, you gain some insight to follow-up questions.
Weekend's peakin'
Not only do you get a clearer picture of what life with her will be like after the honeymoon, but you are also sending mixed messages, which is not entirely bad at first. Yes, mind games are childish, but keeping your cards at your chest gives you leverage. She will ask herself: "Does he want to see me on weekends?"
Be bold and look ahead
Now, assuming she is having a good time and she is looking at you with that sparkle in her eye... In other words, if her body language is positive, you can look ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future. Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what other great adventures you have in store for her.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
First Time Dating Tips
Meeting your date first time gives a range of emotional feeling in your mind which will be so thrilling and also terrifying. Dating with a singles for the first time will make a lot of chemistry changes in our body.
Be on time
Timeliness is the first tip in making your dating experience go smoothly. Timeliness is expected by other singles with whom you date that day. Being late or too early will create a bad impression on you in their mind. Not always we can be on time but sometimes it goes out of our control. How to avoid such situation with your first date. Communicate with them. Call them before the expected arrival time and tell them about your delay in meeting them. This gives good impression on you that you are serious in the date.
Personal Checks
Before going to meet your date / friend check yourself first. Below is the list that you need to check on you before meeting your date
•Fingernails are clean or not
•Hair style and neat
•check your cloths are properly ironed
•shoes polished
•Any odors are under control.
Your physical impression is more essential than your mental impression in your first date.
Appearance
Your date may not look at your hair style or clothing style but they will see your appearance. If your look is not pleasing, your first may be your last date with him. So check your appearance. Have a simple makeup which must not be done overly. Mild perfume will help you in attracting his attention on you. Be simple on your first date.
Don't go to crowded places
Dating is about to get to know each other better and to talk and understand about your date. First time dating is meant for knowing each others. When you go to movies or theatres, he may got attracted on others than you which may spoil your dating experience. In a crowded place there is a chance that you can't get to know each other well.
No over communication on first date
To know more about your date, you need to ask some questions but be sure that you are asking the questions which you want to ask. Overlay asked questions and answers will make other person to loose interest in having further dates with you. So keep it simple and smooth. Moreover dating is more than an interview. Don't talk about yourself always, give your date a chance also.
Keep surprises about you
Don't allow your date to get to know all about you in first time itself. This makes your date to loose interest. Keep secrets about you but give a hint about it. Create interest so that you get their attention not only in the first date but for further dates too. Guys tend to check more about girls life and girls love to know about secrets and try to uncover them.
Keep something common with your date
Before going to first time dating, you should know each other through online dating/ friendship sites. With the help of those you may know a little about your date. So have something in common which creates interest for talking. Best method to have interesting topics will be from magazines, newspapers. Read them to get some common topics which creates way to know more about your date. Always try to find common things that both can share.
Never argue with your date
Always keep an open mind especially with your date. If you always argue with everything in first dating it creates bad impression and interest. Saying so is not saying yes to everything that your date says but gives places where you differ, alternate ideas. If you don't know something ask them.
Never get excited with first date
One important tip for the first time dating friends is never get nervous/excited. You may get excited but don't show them to your date. Stay calm, confident looks is very appealing than a nervous, excited look.
Have lot's of fun with your date
Have fun with your date. For that only we are dating with others.
Above are some tips which are said, there is a lot of dating tips which helps you in your dating. Dating tips may help for some and not for some. Tips which are said are of general members in mind. Successful dating experience depends on the situation not with any other things. So use these free dating tips with care.
Be on time
Timeliness is the first tip in making your dating experience go smoothly. Timeliness is expected by other singles with whom you date that day. Being late or too early will create a bad impression on you in their mind. Not always we can be on time but sometimes it goes out of our control. How to avoid such situation with your first date. Communicate with them. Call them before the expected arrival time and tell them about your delay in meeting them. This gives good impression on you that you are serious in the date.
Personal Checks
Before going to meet your date / friend check yourself first. Below is the list that you need to check on you before meeting your date
•Fingernails are clean or not
•Hair style and neat
•check your cloths are properly ironed
•shoes polished
•Any odors are under control.
Your physical impression is more essential than your mental impression in your first date.
Appearance
Your date may not look at your hair style or clothing style but they will see your appearance. If your look is not pleasing, your first may be your last date with him. So check your appearance. Have a simple makeup which must not be done overly. Mild perfume will help you in attracting his attention on you. Be simple on your first date.
Don't go to crowded places
Dating is about to get to know each other better and to talk and understand about your date. First time dating is meant for knowing each others. When you go to movies or theatres, he may got attracted on others than you which may spoil your dating experience. In a crowded place there is a chance that you can't get to know each other well.
No over communication on first date
To know more about your date, you need to ask some questions but be sure that you are asking the questions which you want to ask. Overlay asked questions and answers will make other person to loose interest in having further dates with you. So keep it simple and smooth. Moreover dating is more than an interview. Don't talk about yourself always, give your date a chance also.
Keep surprises about you
Don't allow your date to get to know all about you in first time itself. This makes your date to loose interest. Keep secrets about you but give a hint about it. Create interest so that you get their attention not only in the first date but for further dates too. Guys tend to check more about girls life and girls love to know about secrets and try to uncover them.
Keep something common with your date
Before going to first time dating, you should know each other through online dating/ friendship sites. With the help of those you may know a little about your date. So have something in common which creates interest for talking. Best method to have interesting topics will be from magazines, newspapers. Read them to get some common topics which creates way to know more about your date. Always try to find common things that both can share.
Never argue with your date
Always keep an open mind especially with your date. If you always argue with everything in first dating it creates bad impression and interest. Saying so is not saying yes to everything that your date says but gives places where you differ, alternate ideas. If you don't know something ask them.
Never get excited with first date
One important tip for the first time dating friends is never get nervous/excited. You may get excited but don't show them to your date. Stay calm, confident looks is very appealing than a nervous, excited look.
Have lot's of fun with your date
Have fun with your date. For that only we are dating with others.
Above are some tips which are said, there is a lot of dating tips which helps you in your dating. Dating tips may help for some and not for some. Tips which are said are of general members in mind. Successful dating experience depends on the situation not with any other things. So use these free dating tips with care.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Dress to Impress on Your First Date
Many of you ladies might think you won’t need help primping for a first date, as you’re already impeccably dressed and would never think of committing any fashion crimes. But when it comes to impressing someone you’re sweet on, even the most stylish among us can lose our way. Herewith, your definitive guide to dating-wear do’s and don’ts.
Make an effort.
It goes without saying: you want to let your date know that you gave a damn to look good for him, and vice versa. If you’re a girly-girl, this is a no-brainer: you always aim to look put-together and “done”. But even us girly-girls can sometimes miss those all-important details.
So fresh, so clean.
Now, I hate ironing as much as you, but if you insist on wearing those oh-so-butt-flattering yet wrinkle-friendly black pants, be sure to iron them before heading out. And if you’re going to pull out your trusty LBD, make sure you put on your deodorant after slipping it on. Some of these so-called “invisible” brands simply aren’t and you don’t want to end up with those dreaded white slash marks near your waist. Be neat. Your date will surely appreciate your chic, tidy, and crease-free look.
Less is more.
A general rule when it comes to first-date dressing? Don’t show too much skin. You want to look sophisticated, not like a dime-store hooker. A little cleavage is good, however. Keep the girls strapped into a well-fitting bra and you’ll show some sex appeal without giving off the achingly desperate cougar vibe.
This rule also applies to makeup, so be subtle. Maybe a little extra shimmer shadow in the corner of your eye, or a couple of extra coats of mascara, but don’t go trying out that ubiquitous smokey-eye raccoon-look if it’s not something you’d wear day to day. Honesty is key here. You want to convey what you actually look like, not what you’d look like as a circus performer.
Clean hands, manicured nails.
Ever since I outgrew my decades-long nail-biting habit, I’ve noticed people’s hands and nails. And you know what they say about hands: well-kept hands say “stable, together”; chewed, dirty fingernails say “Nervous Nellie”. So keep up with regular manicures at home or treat yourself to a professional mani at a salon. You’ll feel more confident if you’re not embarrassed to show your claws.
Be comfortable.
You might think that date-night is a great excuse to run out to Aritzia and buy a sexy new top. But know this before you drop your already debt-ravaged Visa card: you might be more comfortable and at ease in clothes you already own. Wear what makes you feel great. First dates are stressful enough—the last thing you need is a boob to unexpectedly slip out of a top you’re not used to wearing.
Lastly, dress according to where you’re going.
If you’re going bowling on your first date, don’t show up in a sexy Mendocino dress; go casual with jeans and a nice top. The same is true if you’re going to a snazzy restaurant: dress appropriately.
Kristen Vinakmens
Make an effort.
It goes without saying: you want to let your date know that you gave a damn to look good for him, and vice versa. If you’re a girly-girl, this is a no-brainer: you always aim to look put-together and “done”. But even us girly-girls can sometimes miss those all-important details.
So fresh, so clean.
Now, I hate ironing as much as you, but if you insist on wearing those oh-so-butt-flattering yet wrinkle-friendly black pants, be sure to iron them before heading out. And if you’re going to pull out your trusty LBD, make sure you put on your deodorant after slipping it on. Some of these so-called “invisible” brands simply aren’t and you don’t want to end up with those dreaded white slash marks near your waist. Be neat. Your date will surely appreciate your chic, tidy, and crease-free look.
Less is more.
A general rule when it comes to first-date dressing? Don’t show too much skin. You want to look sophisticated, not like a dime-store hooker. A little cleavage is good, however. Keep the girls strapped into a well-fitting bra and you’ll show some sex appeal without giving off the achingly desperate cougar vibe.
This rule also applies to makeup, so be subtle. Maybe a little extra shimmer shadow in the corner of your eye, or a couple of extra coats of mascara, but don’t go trying out that ubiquitous smokey-eye raccoon-look if it’s not something you’d wear day to day. Honesty is key here. You want to convey what you actually look like, not what you’d look like as a circus performer.
Clean hands, manicured nails.
Ever since I outgrew my decades-long nail-biting habit, I’ve noticed people’s hands and nails. And you know what they say about hands: well-kept hands say “stable, together”; chewed, dirty fingernails say “Nervous Nellie”. So keep up with regular manicures at home or treat yourself to a professional mani at a salon. You’ll feel more confident if you’re not embarrassed to show your claws.
Be comfortable.
You might think that date-night is a great excuse to run out to Aritzia and buy a sexy new top. But know this before you drop your already debt-ravaged Visa card: you might be more comfortable and at ease in clothes you already own. Wear what makes you feel great. First dates are stressful enough—the last thing you need is a boob to unexpectedly slip out of a top you’re not used to wearing.
Lastly, dress according to where you’re going.
If you’re going bowling on your first date, don’t show up in a sexy Mendocino dress; go casual with jeans and a nice top. The same is true if you’re going to a snazzy restaurant: dress appropriately.
Kristen Vinakmens
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Dating Tips for Men
If you are able to handle the situation with care, making your woman overwhelmed on the very first meeting, is not big deal. There are certain guidelines which will definitely come handy in impressing a woman during the first meeting, though there is no specific golden rule or formula behind this approach. All you need to do is prepare yourself the way you perceive a particular situation you are in beforehand. Sometimes you notice a pretty woman dating a man with normal personality. This may reflect certain vague thoughts in your mind, like the guy might be from a rich background or he might be very brilliant that caught up the attention of the woman. At times, this may be true but not all the time. There can be numerous other factors which help in impressing a woman.
The main characteristic of a man’s approach is his ability to tackle a woman. Men very well know how to impress woman and they are prepared to tackle her even in the adverse situations. Another trick is that a guy should be presentable in his manners and conduct. Your way of talking is another major factor that contributes to impressing a woman. It is very well said that ‘The first Impression is the Last impression’. This should be the mantra in building relationships. If your first meeting with the woman is quite impressive, then she will definitely seek opportunities to meet with you, the very second time. However, if you are quite disrespectful and rude in your dealings, you fail to get another opportunity to make a good impression for dating the woman. This is how initial impressions play a significant role in impressing a woman.
Maintaining a proper eye-to-eye contact is another significant feature that most of the men usually follow to impress a woman. During your first meeting, you may come up with the feeling of un-easiness or discomfort, if you try to maintain an eye contact with her. But it is very important from her perspective. It is only up to you to determine an apt time for maintaining eye contact. Females comparatively have higher tendency to maintain eye contact. So, try to maintain a prolong eye contact during the course of your interaction with your woman. In addition, do focus on her body language, i.e. her way of talking and maximize the use of hand gestures to mark or show respect to the lady. Don’t try to stare unnecessarily on other body parts, as it may degrade your reputation in front of her. This is because of the fact that women have sharp power to recognize the mental run of men and they can easily read your intentions.
Some men are so confused during their first date that they don’t know how to initiate talking with their lady. However, it varies from person to person. Different people have different perspective and their way of dealing a particular situation is different. Some men are smart enough to know how to handle the woman. A particular surrounding in which you are interacting with your woman also plays a key role in making your first date a success or failure. Some people are quite conscious about the people surrounding them while interacting with the girl.
These are some of the essential dating tips that one should follow while dating a woman. These tricks are also beneficial to impress women in the very first meeting. So, follow these guidelines and enjoy your first date with a feeling of easiness.
The main characteristic of a man’s approach is his ability to tackle a woman. Men very well know how to impress woman and they are prepared to tackle her even in the adverse situations. Another trick is that a guy should be presentable in his manners and conduct. Your way of talking is another major factor that contributes to impressing a woman. It is very well said that ‘The first Impression is the Last impression’. This should be the mantra in building relationships. If your first meeting with the woman is quite impressive, then she will definitely seek opportunities to meet with you, the very second time. However, if you are quite disrespectful and rude in your dealings, you fail to get another opportunity to make a good impression for dating the woman. This is how initial impressions play a significant role in impressing a woman.
Maintaining a proper eye-to-eye contact is another significant feature that most of the men usually follow to impress a woman. During your first meeting, you may come up with the feeling of un-easiness or discomfort, if you try to maintain an eye contact with her. But it is very important from her perspective. It is only up to you to determine an apt time for maintaining eye contact. Females comparatively have higher tendency to maintain eye contact. So, try to maintain a prolong eye contact during the course of your interaction with your woman. In addition, do focus on her body language, i.e. her way of talking and maximize the use of hand gestures to mark or show respect to the lady. Don’t try to stare unnecessarily on other body parts, as it may degrade your reputation in front of her. This is because of the fact that women have sharp power to recognize the mental run of men and they can easily read your intentions.
Some men are so confused during their first date that they don’t know how to initiate talking with their lady. However, it varies from person to person. Different people have different perspective and their way of dealing a particular situation is different. Some men are smart enough to know how to handle the woman. A particular surrounding in which you are interacting with your woman also plays a key role in making your first date a success or failure. Some people are quite conscious about the people surrounding them while interacting with the girl.
These are some of the essential dating tips that one should follow while dating a woman. These tricks are also beneficial to impress women in the very first meeting. So, follow these guidelines and enjoy your first date with a feeling of easiness.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Speed Dating Tips for Women
Don't Give Out Any Personal Details!
Speed dating is a great way to meet single guys. Its fun, it's fast and most importantly, it's safe. Help us keep it that way by not giving out any personal information during your speed dates. This includes last name, telephone number and email address. If you tick him off in your Speed Dating folder, and he also shows an interest in you, we'll make sure you both have everything you need in order to catch up again!
Give Clear Signals
Men are notoriously bad at interpreting signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. If you genuinely want to meet people then by all means flirt, just make sure you know how to separate the sexual flirting signals from the 'hi, I'm friendly' flirting signals.
Laugh and the World laughs with You
People love being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state of mind for making a good impression and go for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.
Like your mother said, if you haven't got anything nice to say - don't say anything at all... but don't get up and leave!
A Russian immigrant attended one speed dating events. Although he had a PhD he had found it difficult to find a job in his field and was driving a cab to make ends meet. When he arrived at one of the female guest's table she asked him what he did for a living (a no no in itself) and promptly got up and went to sit at the bar when she found out he drove a taxi. Not only is this kind of behavior deeply insulting to the man, it's just plain wrong.
It's almost inevitable that some of the people you meet will not be right for you, but they are human beings and deserve your respect and courtesy. They've paid to meet you too!
Be Interesting by Being Interested
Cut down the talk about yourself and ask him open-ended questions. Find out about him - after all people generally enjoy talking about themselves and feel flattered when someone shows an interest in them.
Jay Abrahams, the famous marketing expert, tells the story of a conversation he had with a stranger in a bar. He introduced himself and said that he was in Sydney to do a lecture tour. He then asked the stranger "What brings you to Sydney?"
An hour later the man got up to leave. "You know Mr. Abrahams" he said, "You are one of the most interesting people I have ever met". Jay recounts that during the entire hour the only words he spoke were those of his introduction and his first question!
People like people who are interested in them. You don't have to shut up entirely but when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 60% of the time listening to THEM!
Ask Him What He Enjoys Doing
Women and men often tend to fall back on the line 'What do you do'? To some men, this can smack of 'checking for wallet-padding'. Not everyone is doing work they love and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more activity orientated than women. Asking them what they enjoy doing in their life will allow you to find out more about what makes them tick.
Be Yourself
There's no point assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren't sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there, or you can ask us for some advices.
These tips are courtesy of Peta Heskell
Speed dating is a great way to meet single guys. Its fun, it's fast and most importantly, it's safe. Help us keep it that way by not giving out any personal information during your speed dates. This includes last name, telephone number and email address. If you tick him off in your Speed Dating folder, and he also shows an interest in you, we'll make sure you both have everything you need in order to catch up again!
Give Clear Signals
Men are notoriously bad at interpreting signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. If you genuinely want to meet people then by all means flirt, just make sure you know how to separate the sexual flirting signals from the 'hi, I'm friendly' flirting signals.
Laugh and the World laughs with You
People love being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state of mind for making a good impression and go for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.
Like your mother said, if you haven't got anything nice to say - don't say anything at all... but don't get up and leave!
A Russian immigrant attended one speed dating events. Although he had a PhD he had found it difficult to find a job in his field and was driving a cab to make ends meet. When he arrived at one of the female guest's table she asked him what he did for a living (a no no in itself) and promptly got up and went to sit at the bar when she found out he drove a taxi. Not only is this kind of behavior deeply insulting to the man, it's just plain wrong.
It's almost inevitable that some of the people you meet will not be right for you, but they are human beings and deserve your respect and courtesy. They've paid to meet you too!
Be Interesting by Being Interested
Cut down the talk about yourself and ask him open-ended questions. Find out about him - after all people generally enjoy talking about themselves and feel flattered when someone shows an interest in them.
Jay Abrahams, the famous marketing expert, tells the story of a conversation he had with a stranger in a bar. He introduced himself and said that he was in Sydney to do a lecture tour. He then asked the stranger "What brings you to Sydney?"
An hour later the man got up to leave. "You know Mr. Abrahams" he said, "You are one of the most interesting people I have ever met". Jay recounts that during the entire hour the only words he spoke were those of his introduction and his first question!
People like people who are interested in them. You don't have to shut up entirely but when you engage someone in conversation make sure you spend at least 60% of the time listening to THEM!
Ask Him What He Enjoys Doing
Women and men often tend to fall back on the line 'What do you do'? To some men, this can smack of 'checking for wallet-padding'. Not everyone is doing work they love and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more activity orientated than women. Asking them what they enjoy doing in their life will allow you to find out more about what makes them tick.
Be Yourself
There's no point assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you'll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren't sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there, or you can ask us for some advices.
These tips are courtesy of Peta Heskell
Monday, July 6, 2009
Speed Dating
Speed dating occurs when people go to a speed dating
place looking for someone who might be a good match
for them. This includes a very quick meeting with many
different people and you see if there is someone there
who you might be compatible with.
Speed dating is when many women and men sit at tables.
A woman and a man will sit at each table for a
specified period of time. It may be two minutes or ten
minutes depending on the speed dating place you are
at.
During this period of time, the two will ask each
other questions and get to know a little about each
other. They have the opportunity to quickly get a run
down on each person and decide if they are someone
they might be interested in getting to know a little
better after.
When the time is up then the women or the men will
move to the next table and talk to another person.
After each of the couples have met and spoke to each
other they will give the numbers of the people or say
which people they are interested in. If both people
show an interest then they have the opportunity to
communicate and go out together.
During the speed dating process while couples are at
the table they may exchange information with each
other also, if they hit it off right away.
Speed dating is not for everyone but some people
really like meeting new people and finding a date this
way. Many people like this method because they get to
meet the people in person and talk with them rather
than online or by going on a blind date.
It is said that if there is chemistry between the two
people then it is immediately recognized during a
speed dating session.
place looking for someone who might be a good match
for them. This includes a very quick meeting with many
different people and you see if there is someone there
who you might be compatible with.
Speed dating is when many women and men sit at tables.
A woman and a man will sit at each table for a
specified period of time. It may be two minutes or ten
minutes depending on the speed dating place you are
at.
During this period of time, the two will ask each
other questions and get to know a little about each
other. They have the opportunity to quickly get a run
down on each person and decide if they are someone
they might be interested in getting to know a little
better after.
When the time is up then the women or the men will
move to the next table and talk to another person.
After each of the couples have met and spoke to each
other they will give the numbers of the people or say
which people they are interested in. If both people
show an interest then they have the opportunity to
communicate and go out together.
During the speed dating process while couples are at
the table they may exchange information with each
other also, if they hit it off right away.
Speed dating is not for everyone but some people
really like meeting new people and finding a date this
way. Many people like this method because they get to
meet the people in person and talk with them rather
than online or by going on a blind date.
It is said that if there is chemistry between the two
people then it is immediately recognized during a
speed dating session.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Christian Speed Dating Privacy Policy
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Cookies and Web Beacons
We do use cookies to store information, such as your personal preferences when you visit our site. This could include only showing you a popup once in your visit, or the ability to login to some of our features, such as forums.
We also use third party advertisements on christianspeeddating.blogspot.com to support our site. Some of these advertisers may use technology such as cookies and web beacons when they advertise on our site, which will also send these advertisers (such as Google through the Google AdSense program) information including your IP address, your ISP , the browser you used to visit our site, and in some cases, whether you have Flash installed. This is generally used for geotargeting purposes (showing New York real estate ads to someone in New York, for example) or showing certain ads based on specific sites visited (such as showing cooking ads to someone who frequents cooking sites).
You can chose to disable or selectively turn off our cookies or third-party cookies in your browser settings, or by managing preferences in programs such as Norton Internet Security. However, this can affect how you are able to interact with our site as well as other websites. This could include the inability to login to services or programs, such as logging into forums or accounts.
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